I write and reflect on the hard stuff that life throws at us. My main focus lately is grief and loss. I am currently living on the traditional territory of the WSÁNEĆ (Saanich), lək̓ʷəŋən (Songhees), Wyomilth (Esquimalt) peoples of the Coast Salish Nation. Victoria, BC. ​Through my writing, reflective writing prompts, articles, grief reflections and book, Love Notes to Grievers, it is a privilege to connect with people traversing through this complex and messy human experience—rooted in love and belonging through the work that I do. ​It brings me to a quote that replays in my mind often, written by Joan Didion, about her husband's sudden death. 

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"Life changes in the instant. The ordinary instant." 

Grief rocked every inch of my being, all aspects of my life, and every piece of my heart shattered into unchartered territory. ​My life changed in an ordinary instant, and the same for many others. It made me realize that the relentless quest to halt ageing, sanitization of death, fixation on happiness and naming our emotions as positive or negative makes us ill-equipped to be with our grief and hold ourselves and others in our darkest moments. That broke my heart all over again. Writing is my way of being with it all, and connecting with others in the depths is the bittersweetness of where I live and hold as sacred. 

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